Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish

Power, men and women.

In Uncategorized on May 25, 2011 at 6:26 pm

“In this country, first you get the money, then you get the power, then you get the women.” Tony Montana,  Scarface

Newspapers are full of sex scandals involving powerful men. Last week alone, Dominique Strauss-Kahn – the former IMF chief and leading Socialist presidential challenger- was charged with attempting to rape a hotel chambermaid in New York while Arnold Schwarzenegger, governor of California, has admitted having a love-child with his housekeeper for ten years.

It is time to ask: Does power turn regular guys into sexual predators? In an episode of South Park (Season 14 Episode 1) One of the character asks “Why  our rich successful men suddenly going out and try to have sex with lots of women […] Why would a man who is famous and makes tones of money uses that to try and have sex with lots and different women? “

According to a New York Times article “A Sexist Pig Myth”. Power does not turn men into a sex obsessed person however it is clearly a “facilitor”. “It provides opportunities to men with certain appetites but seldom changes personality in any fundamental way” said the psychologist Ronald F. Levant.  Moreover, the article specifies that arrogance precedes power and that people tend to cede authority and leadership precisely to those overconfident, outspoken individuals. It is a kind of vicious circle since the arrogant becomes the leader and once he is leader, his “sense of control and self-centeredness” are only reinforced.  Samuel Barondes also claims that “If the person has this sense of superiority, and they’ve gotten away with these kinds of things before, they begin to think that the risk-reward ratio that applies to everyone else doesn’t apply to them because they’re so special”.

 It is important to recognize the role played by the women and the cheated wife in this process. We all know that behind a powerful man lies a powerful woman. These women, in order to protect their family, their husband and their social status have always justified, condoned, covered up and rushed to defend their men from Jackie Kennedy to Hillary Clinton to Silda Spitzer, the woman who embodied the word “humiliation” standing by her husband, former New York Governor Eliot as he confessed his involvement with a prostitution ring. Why such stories might sound shocking for the public opinion the truth is that usually, men do get away with it. I do not encourage Anne Sinclair to divorce his husband in the middle of the hardest moment of his life; she is a very brave and courageous woman. The matter is that as long as women help men cover up assaults and harassment of other women, men will continue to think they are entitled to do so.

To conclude, I just would like to add that women are inherently no more virtuous than men. It’s just that, in the past, they have lacked the confidence or opportunity to stray.
Many figures demonstrate very clearly that increasing numbers of successful women are being tempted to stray and cheat their partner.


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